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My Biggest Goal Is To Find A Husband, And Guess What? I’m Still A Feminist.

By December 1, 2015 0
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I am a feminist.

I believe in equality for all genders, sexual orientations, and ethnicities.

I believe, as a woman, I am equal to a man in every way, however, I am not the stereotypical feminist. While I do believe women are equal to men and should have the same opportunities and receive the same treatment, I do respect different types of equality.

In cultures and societies throughout history, women have often worked in the household, caring for children, cooking, and making clothing, and the men have worked outside of the home, farming, hunting, or just working a modern job. To me, this is not inequality. The only inequality is the kind that is forced on someone or against their will. This, to me, is a balance. The partners divide their responsibilities in order to survive but remain of equal status. Of course, this has often been and can be an unequal system, in which a woman is forced into servitude and stripped of her voice, but it doesn’t have to be.

And while I am a feminist…

I am something else for myself. I, personally, put my relationships before my career goals. Shocking, right? In fact, my most cherished goal in life is to marry, have a family, and never get divorced. Most feminists will say to put oneself before anyone else and that is exactly what I do, except I do it in an unconventional way. I want a husband. I want children. I want to be happy and to find love. My career comes second. That’s what I choose for myself and it doesn’t make me any less of a feminist.

I am a feminist.

I am a strong woman that is okay with my significant other being the stronger one. I choose to trust him with my power. I want to be the woman who cooks for her husband. Not always but often. I want to be submissive, sometimes sexually and sometimes not. I want to be the vulnerable one, the one who needs guarding. I want my husband to protect me. I can protect myself but I want him to protect me, instead, and that’s okay. I want to wear makeup and high heels and to look good for him and not myself. I want to be that woman and, while I am her…

…I will still be a feminist.