Your Body

If This Girl Is A Fat Cow Then We’re All Screwed

By April 12, 2016 8

I’m writing this because I officially feel shitty about my body. And that is not okay.

I am someone who recently decided to eat healthier, work out more, and become a skinnier, more toned version of myself, largely due to my impending wedding coming up in July. It’s worked so far and I’m doing okay.

But tonight…

It was a stressful day at work. I came home to a semi-stressful conversation at home. And so all I wanted for dinner was beer and Thin Mints (damn you, Girl Scout cookies). And then that turned into a bagel with cream cheese for an entree and then a glass of wine, too.

It’s just not one of those “good” nights.

Then I see this article, which at first came up with a silly headshot of a pretty blond surrounded by bags of potato chips. Awesome, I thought. This is a girl I can get behind. The headline toted a story about a plus-sized model shutting down Negative Nelly’s on Instagram who called her a “fat cow.”

After a few peruses through the rest of my Newsfeed, I finally clicked on it. And the pictures I saw — full photos now, not just headshots — absolutely astounded me.

In what world is this girl considered “plus-sized”? 

This blonde bombshell has got a minuscule waist and a killer set of abs. Her hips could put Shakira to shame. Her butt is what half the housewives in the U.S. hire personal trainers for. Her thighs appear to be the perfectly athletic companion to those gorgeous, never-ending legs.

Again: In what world is this girl considered “plus-sized”? 

I skimmed the article to find the usual reporting, that she’s proud of her body and she’s shut down body shamers with expert poise. But I just found myself wondering how in the world she has become the definition of “larger.” How do agencies actually view her weight or size as being “above average?”

I think perhaps I’ve hit the nail on the head right there: Newflash: she’s not. 

I could only dream to look like this girl. In fact, I think we boast a similar body type, though I’m about half her height and less than half her bust size, so clearly there are some discrepancies there. However, when I look in the mirror and decide what I want to see one day, it’s not ’90’s, rail-thin, coked-out Kate Moss. No, not in my wildest, most perfect dreams. To be truly honest, it really is this chick, this Iskra Lawrence, buxom, confident, big-bootied, healthy-thighed, and ab-ridden.

…and she is labeled as a plus-sized model?

I’m sorry, but something is so incredibly wrong here. Regardless of the modeling industry’s obvious pitfalls, the fact that this woman is anything other than admirable and beautiful is beyond me. “Plus-sized” seems to connote, in our society, that they are a special case, that they should be pitied, that they’re here to please a minority audience. When in fact, they should be here to appeal to the masses.

So I propose this: take away the “plus-sized” model label.

Instead, what if we labeled typical models as “under-sized,” or “petite-sized?”

Because often, when I go to buy clothes, I’m buying a 6 or an 8, maybe even a 10 — certainly not the 0 or the 2 that the model is pinned into.

Because today, I looked at a plus-sized model, and I saw myself. More than that, I saw a goal self. And as a 27, self-secure, diet-conscious, workout-trying, grown-ass adult, it made me sad.

The label made me sad.

Marketers and researchers, if you’re wondering why this matters to you, here’s the cut-and-dry version:

Sad, fat-feeling, insecure girls don’t buy clothes. Confident, lovely, inspired-feeling ones do. 

And in said clothes, we flaunt that ass with pride. 


  • 1st Amend.

    That girl is not Plus Sized, please don’t spend so much energy on the internet. You need a sit down with Stuart Smally. Good God man. Why can’t you look at her and look at the article and say to yourself, “this is stupid” then go on about your day? If I got upset and depressed at every supermarket check out headline, I would not make it through the day. Move on, move up. If you really are “self secure”, why not act like it.

  • Tom Leykis Fan

    I would not kick her out of bed if she farted.

  • Watcher

    The problem is the label itself. Labels will always create us and them categories and feelings will be hurt. Unfortunately until every person is the same exact size, there will be different categories and hurt feelings.
    At some point you have to find confidence from within, even if you are unattractive or unpopular. Once you can do that, then it wont matter what word the fashion industry uses for your size. Until you can do that, no word will be good enough.

  • Jan Scott

    The fashion industry hates a natural, healthy woman. They want women to look like strung out teenage boys.

    • Tom Leykis Fan

      Well look who most of the fashion designers are and their sexual preference.

  • Nic_223

    I think that women are best at making themselves feel inadequate men do not tend to have as strict a standard. Also the context is very important when you talk about professional models. They need to go to absurd lengths to be and remain skinny as this yields them the most work showing off the latest fashion. It is like how professional bodybuilders have absurd standards when it comes to size. I think your BMI gives you a good indication if you are overweight or not and make no mistake even those love handles and tummy will give you diabetes and heart disease it’s very important to stay fit and not become overweight.

    • Nic_223

      By the way as a man I can tell you that healthy is the most attractive. Skinny is not healthy so it is not attractive. Try lifting heavy weights to tone and increase your muscle mass that makes a women very attractive. Squats to bring the butt up to size etc. don’t worry about “looking like a man” natural testosterone levels prevent a woman from looking like one. The woman who look “manly” are all on steroids.

  • Sonrisas

    The problem resides in the word “plus-sized”.
    Originally, one would think that a woman that is 1’75 and 87 kg is bigger than most women. The average in Europe is around 68, in the states it’s 74. This woman is, by all means, bigger than the average, and WAY bigger than the average model. Nothing wrong with it; she’s attractive, she’s confident and she’s a model.

    But we’re used to understanding the word “plus-sized model” as an euphemism for “grounded whale full of photoshop”.
    The problem is not that we consider Iskra Lawrence plus-sized, it’s that in the name of “every body is beautiful”, we allow people like Tess Holliday in that category.
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    The moment you thought “That’s a woman I can get behind”, you gave life to the concept of model. Models are for us to follow, to aspire to. Not some cheap “Feel good with three buttcheeks and don’t try to change a thing” excuse. Plus-sized model bodies are bodies to aspire to when your constitution is bigger, not the result of eating ten times what you can possibly burn in a week.