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Guess What? Me And The Homies Don’t Take Birth Control.

By January 4, 2016 0

I want to be clear here that I am not anti-birth control. I just want to remind women everywhere that it’s a decision; a very-real-life, serious decision— and not one that should be taken lightly because you learned about it in your sophomoric year of high school.

All that said…

I do not take birth control.

Not the pill, not the shot, not the ring, not any form of birth control, ever.

“But Candace, you can’t write this article in a public setting. All of the teenagers will get pregnant and it’ll be your fault”

Shut up.

Don’t get me wrong, I used to take the pill when I was 16 years old.

I also used to take a running start when I tried to land a Jackie Chan style martial art kick to my then-boyfriend’s esophagus.

The pill is one of those things, that sneaks up on you in that way. You feel okay, nothing drastic or immediately noticeable– but then one day, the sudden urge to end your 15 year old boyfriend’s life because of the text message he sent to his –(mother? oops) it all just feels way too viable an option.

The rage was real.

And therefore, I do not take birth control.

“But Candace, just because you tried to murder your ex boyfriend doesn’t mean that’s what happens to everyone”

Shut up again.

Why is it that it’s become totally acceptable to introduce synthetic hormones into our bodies? The idea of intercepting our fertility is not only viewed as normal these days, it’s expected.

And I can’t seem to come to grips with this because:

A) It’s sexist as fuck. There is no way you can convince me that technology and science have figured out a means to get humans into outer space, but they are completely stumped when it comes to discovering a pill that a man can take everyday that will prevent him from shooting live sperm. Fuck you, science.

B) Because I believe it makes it difficult to become pregnant down the line. So many people (many of them public figures)  have openly documented their struggles with fertility. It’s an honest blessing to be able to have just two children these days, and yet all of our grandparents seem to have 10-plus brothers and sisters. Literally, back in the day, it was a “by the dozen” game. Although I’m sure the very-much-since-developed contraceptive methods have played a small part in this decrease, I also believe it has a lot to do with confusing our bodies altogether.  We can’t tell our reproductive systems “no, no, no—stay back” for years, and then expect them to come swinging strong when we change our minds. “Nvm jk” doesn’t really work beyond text jargon.

C)I just don’t want to inject synthetic hormones into my body. I don’t want it in my food, (looking at you Monsanto), I don’t want it my drink, and I most certainly do not want to willingly digest it, as a response to an alarm that goes off on my phone, daily.

Because I will not be reminded to dilute my humanity.

And then a few years ago this really weird thing started happening:

The homies started to agree. It turns out, none of my close girlfriends take birth control either. (I’m actually developing this theory that the most calm, rational women that I know have this one thing in common but we’ll save that argument for another day).

And we are all SO relieved. We’re not sure why we kept it a secret—this so-okay fact that we choose not to keep our fertility at bay. I mean we don’t even truly know why we were taking it in the first place. It’s just  “the thing you do” when you start having sex, right? It’s considered mature, responsible– and not one of us had ever stopped to question the reason why.

Because that’s the central bone of contention, isn’t it? “Taking birth control is responsible” “It prevents unwanted pregnancies”, but why is that the only sort of education that’s taking place?

It’s a bit of a mass-brainwashing if you ask me: the millions of women who now staunchly defend birth control as their “right”,  not one of them stopping to consider why it became our burden to prevent the natural course of our bodies in the first place. The women who jump on a platform, so that we can have this pill for forever:  the pill they started taking when they were just teenagers, long before they had a fully developed mind.


But so is the nature of our society. We are conditioned to do things long before we are old enough to develop an independent opinion regarding them, and in time, we are harshly defending our actions as well as the flawed ideologies behind them, which were never really ours to begin with.

That is the unfortunate consequence of the had-much-too-early conversations and assignments, where the “right” answer just so happens to endorse a particular political or social institution.

But this girl here is starting to think independently.

And so I do not take birth control.

Because I do not want to take birth control.

And I do not have to take birth control.

So, shut up.