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5 Simple Ways To Identify A Toxic Person

By October 31, 2015 0
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Toxic people.

We all know them. They come in all different shapes and sizes, but I can guarantee every single one of us has encountered at least one toxic person in our lifetime — and if you haven’t, have you considered whether or not you’re the toxic person?

The scary thing about toxic people is that they’re not easily identifiable. A lot of toxic people initially come off as extremely fun and exciting. Most of the time it’s not until you’ve started a friendship or relationship with this person that you realize they might not be as amazing as they originally appeared. So how do we identify these toxic people before it’s too late?

Here are five simple ways to identify a toxic person:

  1. You often find yourself saying, “but we’ve known each other forever,” to justify keeping the friendship alive. We tend to heavily focus on the amount of time we’ve known people, instead of the quality of the time we spend with people. No one would pick five years of torture over two months of pleasure, so why put ourselves through hell just because we’ve known the person since diapers?
  2. They expect you to drop everything whenever they need you – you’re a bad friend otherwise. Work? Other plans? Your mental health? Doesn’t matter to them. If they need you, you better be there. Yet, they wouldn’t even think of helping you if it conflicted with their favorite TV show.
  3. They’re a liability. You’re hesitant to invite them out because they’re always offending someone, getting too drunk, or breaking something. You feel like you’re babysitting every time they’re around and what’s supposed to be a fun night for both of you turns into a night full of anxiety and stress for you.
  4. “Listening” is not a part of your relationship unless you’re the one doing it. You often feel like you’re in a one-way relationship. They talk about themselves and their problems for hours and as soon as the conversation (or should I say lecture) starts to stray from them to you, they find a way to bring themselves back up again.
  5. You constantly feel judged for things that make you who you are. I think this is the most important one. If your “friend” can’t accept you and respect your differences, they’re not a good friend, honestly they’re not even a friend. Friends are supposed to be supportive of each other. A friend shouldn’t pass judgements on something that defines who you are.

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